Musar para sa Mga Kawikaan 31:30

In the first chapter we shall speak about the quality of pride. How good it is that it occurs at the very beginning of all the chapters because of the obligation of man to separate himself from it! For pride is the doorway to many evils and we have seen nothing as evil as arrogance in all of the qualities. Therefore, a man must be wise and lead pride along paths that are worthy, and thrust it away from the place where it is not proper for it to be.

Solomon was the wisest and greatest of all men. He was king over earthly and celestial beings. After he had seen every sort of activity, tried all things and made known all sorts of wisdom, he concluded all of his words by saying, "The end of every matter is fear of the Lord." And thus he began, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge" (Prov. 1:7), and he ends, "A woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised" (Prov. 31:30).

And even greater is the obligation of the wife to love her husband, honor him as a king among his troops, be in awe of him, and fulfill his desire and will with all her might. And all her focus and attention should be to strive to fully understand what her husband thinks and desires, and to do his will for the sake of finding favor in his eyes. And the essence of her love is love of the soul — she should devote herself to helping him in his service of Hashem, may He be blessed, for this is her portion. And with sweet lips she should speak to him if she needs to guide him on the good path, and to comfort him when he is in distress. And she should rise while it is still night to wake him up, and serve Him [Hashem] together, shoulder to shoulder in the service of Hashem, may He be blessed. And it goes without saying that she should be careful with all her might to not to be the cause of any harm that would prevent him from serving Hashem, may His name be blessed, G-d forbid, for that woman will bear her sin. What can I say, for not all temperaments are the same, except that everything is according to what kind of person he is: she needs to conduct herself according to his characteristics to find favor and good understanding so that their marriage will turn out well in love and brotherhood. The wisdom of women builds her house (Proverbs 14:1), and one who fears Hashem shall be praised (Proverbs 31:30). For besides needing to be modest, “the king’s daughter is all glorious within” (Psalms 45:14), so that she not cause men to sin through their eyes and hearts. And she needs to be adorned for her husband and be careful with cleanliness and purity and orderly with expenditures in order to not cause her husband to sin by turning his eyes to another. These actions too will bring her closer to him and make her find favor in his eyes